On Never Settling + Soul Searching

I used to roll my eyes when I heard the phrase "soul searching." Like what does that even mean? People don't need to search their soul - it's their soul, isn't it? They know what's going on with themselves, don't they?

Boy was I naive.

After college I had trouble deciding what I wanted to be when I grew up. I bounced around from office jobs to retail to owning my own personal training business. I've even shadowed in an elementary school classroom a few times. I just couldn't pinpoint what I wanted to spend my work days doing. A lot of people are okay with just picking a job and sticking with it. Go to work, get it done, come home and do what you love. Well I'm not okay with that - I want to wake up, go to work and do something that I love, and then come home and do MORE stuff that I love.

Little did I know, that can be easier said than done. It really does take some soul searching to figure out where you want to invest your work days. And no, soul searching doesn't have to mean sitting in a dark, candlelit room saying "hummm" - because that's totally what I pictured before I did it myself.

For me soul searching was going after dreams which led to new dreams. Soul searching is learning what you truly enjoy doing, what makes you come alive. I wasn't the 18 year old who entered college knowing that I wanted to be a nurse or a lawyer or whatever. I had to discover what I wanted to do.

I figured out that I thrive off of helping people. I love watching people reach new goals and gain confidence in themselves. I've learned that I crave a balanced home/work life. I want to wake up every day and do something that makes me feel like I'm really impacting people.

I've been a personal trainer for almost 2 years now, and I don't regret a single day of it. It's taught me so much about myself. I love working with people one on one or in smaller groups. Big groups - not so much. I love helping people sit down and create goals and then make a plan to help them reach those goals. I love holding them accountable and encourage them along in making progress toward those goals.

After a lot of research and brainstorming I came upon speech-language pathology. It seems like a career that wraps up everything that I love in a job all into one: I can work with kids or adults. I'll get to help people every single day. I'll be challenged and continue learning every day. I'll have a good home/work balance (which is something that I struggle with now as a personal trainer).

I'm so excited to be back in school pursuing this new path. It's going to be tough, but the payoff will be more than worth it. So I encourage you to do a little soul searching if you don't like where you're at. It's okay to not know exactly where you want to be. Explore! Live! Dream! Make sure that you enjoy the time that you spend soul searching - you don't have to rush through it. 

Whatever you do - never settle. You are worth going after the desires of your heart.

xo, Jess



  1. I agree --it's so important not to settle. It only leads to regrets later!

  2. Love this! Work home balance is something I am working on now!


  3. I love this.

    I can't tell you how many times people have said to me through conversations about finding my dream career, "99% of Americans hate their jobs, it's just a job, it's a part of life. You go to work, you come home, and you enjoy your weekends." Over and over again I always tell them that I refuse to be part of that percentage. I feel ya girl, do what lights your soul on fire because even the slightest spark illuminates dark places. The world needs more people who refuse to settle.

  4. Hey YOU!! First off... I am SO happy to see you back on the LLT hood! I've also been searching high and low for your blog on Bloglovin' but have yet to find you... and now i know why! You just created an account ;)

    I've been keeping in touch with your life (non-stalker status though) on Glisten Fit and IG... girl... you are doin' your dayummm thang! I'm so proud that you keep chasin' the dream even if it didn't turn out to be what you hoped it to be. I love this post because I completely agree... just because you may have earned a degree in a field... just b/c you have experience working in another field... does NOT mean the buck stops there. I totally believe in self-discovery and digging deep into your PASSIONS. So you go girl!!

    xo, Bev


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