2.14.2012

11.10.2006

Happy Valentine's Day, loves :)
This day last year was the day that Adam & I got back together and recommitted our relationship to Jesus, so needless to say it holds a special place in my heart.
In honor of that, I'm skipping a product spotlight and sharing "our story" with you guys instead!

Aimee over at Aspire to Inspire featured this post last week on her blog, so my plan was to have Adam give his version of our story to post here today. Well...he tried, but he just couldn't do it. He said that he could write me anything in the form of a poem or a song but not in a blog post...haha! Oh well, it's the thought that counts right?

So if you've already read this over at Aimee's blog, check back tomorrow!
(or you can read it again...I won't mind ;))
I'm going to be posting pictures of what we did to celebrate Valentine's Day :)
And possibly include pictures of my RED pants...oh yes they came in the mail today.

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This could get a little lengthy...we're going on 6 years of being together. So grab a glass of wine (or 2) and get to reading ;) And don't say I didn't warn you...


It all started in 2005. We met in French class (aww) when I was a sophomore and Adam was a junior. He wasn't originally in my class, but got switched into my class to be with a girl that he was sorta dating at the time. Oops. Anyway, we started talking a lot during class and I noticed how big his heart was and how much he loved Jesus but managed to do so without being a little church mouse/Bible thumper boy. I'd been going to church my whole life, but never knew what it meant to have a genuine relationship with Christ.

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship when I met Adam, and he was so easy to talk to about things. Adam would help me through issues with my old boyfriend and finally told me that I deserved better and that women shouldn't be treated like that. I always thought that I was being treated how any woman was supposed to be treated. I finally got the courage to break up with the other guy. And obviously, my feelings for Adam had grown into more than just the feelings of a friendship.

Us about 6 years ago

Beach trip with my family in 2007

I told him how I felt over summer vacation, and he told me that he just saw me as a friend. I was crushed, and being the little spiteful girl that I was (don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about haha!), I stopped talking to him. The summer was drawing to a close and we hadn't talked much. But one night I got a text from Adam asking me what period I had French 2 for the coming school year. Turns out we had class together, again. He then proceeded to tell me how much he missed talking to me (DUH ;)). We went back to school and it was like nothing had ever happened. I started hanging out with his group of friends, going to to church with him, and then we finally went on our first date to....Starbucks. Crazy, I know ;) He wasn't allowed to be alone with girls, so that was pretty much all we could do haha!

Adam's biggest passion is playing drums for the worship band that he's in.

We quickly became best friends. But we didn't spend a lot of time alone - but we hung out in groups a lot. Our relationship is still like that to this day - it's just easier to be accountable that way. We got together November 10, 2006. I'll spare you the cutesy details of how things were for the next couple of years. We were in that childlike, blissful, everything is perfect phase. You know...he held my hand and my books while walking me to classes, saved me a seat at the lunch table, we hung out in the parking lot after school...high school love at its finest ;)

Good Friday 2011
And then the unthinkable happened. Adam's parents told him that they were getting a divorce. He was so torn up. His dad is his best friend, so to see his dad hurt, made him hurt. And for me to see Adam hurt, killed me. Adam is the oldest child of 5, so he stepped up and was helping take care of the kids during this time. He's never been one to worry about himself. As if that wasn't enough, our church and youth group completely fell apart, and we didn't know what to do.

By this time we were out of high school and gotten into the party scene. Our relationship went places that it shouldn't have, both physically and emotionally. The tension was at an all time high, and neither of us were living out our relationship with God. We went from having a wonderful Christ centered relationship, to a typical worldy relationship. It ate us alive. 

After about a year and a half of this, I broke up with Adam. I wanted to "explore" and not be "tied down." The friends I was hanging out with at the time made me think that I was too young to be in a serious relationship. And what did I do...yep...I listened. STUPID. 

Halloween 2010
I tried to tell myself that was what I wanted- to party and do whatever I pleased. I was miserable. But I didn't know what to do. During this time, Adam was on his way back to living for God and was re-establishing his relationship with Christ. We got back together about a month later, but it didn't last very long, because I was still bitter toward God. Adam was striving to pursue God, while I was still chasing after the things of the world. Adam broke up with me, because I was not the woman of Christ that he needed.

At a Bucs game in 2011
I was devastated. It was a huge wake up call that made me realize not only did I lose my boyfriend, but my best friend. I had also lost my true friendships, because I had let myself get so far away from God and wrapped up in the things of this world. In January 2011 I recommitted my life to Christ. I stripped myself of the trash that I had surrounded myself with the past few years and gave myself, mind and body, back to Jesus. Adam & I got back together February 14, 2011. 


Needless to say, the past 6 years have been full of ups & downs for us. But I can say without a doubt in my heart that the ups outweigh the downs by far. I sit here thanking God (and crying like a little baby) that we have been through all of that and have still managed to be best friends through it all. Adam's had such a hard family life, but through it all he's still the strongest, most passionate, selfless person that I know. We recommitted our relationship to Christ and have been pure for over a year now. It's not easy, but it's worth it. We have a great group of friends that holds us accountable. 

When I let my crazy type A personality get the best of me, he reminds me to slow down and appreciate the moment that I'm in. He reminds me to put others before myself. 
We're total opposites but we compliment each other perfectly :)

I'm blessed to say that Adam is my boyfriend, my best friend, my rock.
I support him in every dream that he has, as does he support me.
If he jumps, I jump. And vice versa.

I'm finishing college in May, so hopefully we'll be getting engaged soon ;) (hint, hint babe...as if you don't get enough of those!)
He won't tell me anything except to trust him and that he has a plan.
Don't worry, the minute he pops the question, I'll let you guys know ;)

Our story isn't perfect, but it's perfect for us.
God has us right where he wants us and I'm pleased to say that He is the one writing our love story.

Us biking a few weeks ago :) 

Through all of this we've learned together and grown together.
I now know that I can't seek perfect love from Adam, but the only place that I can find that is in Christ.
This makes loving each other a whole lot better :)

28 comments:

  1. This is so sweet. I'm so glad God brought you two back together...you are clearly meant to be! Have a happy Valentine's Day with you man :)

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  2. I am so glad you decided to share this! At least Adam tried right ;) Matt is still working on it...maybe some day! ;)

    I love you two together and I am seriously so happy for you that God has done BIG things in both of your all's lives and with each other! I know He will continue to do so :)

    Big hugs today! Happy Valentine's Day girly!!<3

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  3. You two are so cute! I'm glad you got back together. Happy re-anniversary!

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  4. I love your story... I cried again! You two are just so special. I hope you have a wonderful valentines day and your red pants too! I can't wait to see what Adam does for you and your red pants!!

    Happy Valentines Day!!
    Xox,
    Amanda

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  5. Such a sweet story. Love it and love you! Happy Valentines to you and your sweetheart! {Soon to be husband ;)}

    Bri Rios

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  6. Aw what a sweet story! My BF and I have been together for over 5 years now and we've had a lot of ups and downs but are finally in a great place as well (I went through my crazy, don't-wanna-be-tied-down phase my freshman year of college too, UGH), but I'm glad to hear you and your man are back on track! Happy V-Day to you both! :)

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  7. What a beautiful story. True love always finds its way. I believe strongly that you have to love yourself and be right with yourself before you can truly love someone else. Clearly you have done that!

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  8. What a cute story! You look very happy together! :)

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  9. happy valentine's day you two! Can't wait to see what you did!

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  10. Such a sweet story, and such a clear picture of Christ in Adam's attitude toward you. Christ is always there to forgive us and welcome us back even when we have hurt him. That is true, Godly love!

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  11. What a nice story, thanks for sharing. Perfect day for it too. Sounds like you are very blessed, it's great when you find a love where both of you complement each other! Happy Valentine's Day!

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  12. Thank you so much for being bold enough to share your story on here. It's refreshing to hear about two people who have had their ups and downs, but are trying to commit their relationship to God's way. What a great story to read on Valentines Day. Thanks again for your heart!

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  13. Everyone here saying its a sweet story, and I agree lol but, I find it so awesome how honest you are sharing everything!!! Sharing how you strayed from Christ and chose the world instead. I find that so amazing how out of all people Adam came back to God first even though he had a tough childhood. So tell him I said "wow, that's awesome!" :-)
    And I'm so happy that you have recommitted. I just know you two will have a good ending to yiur story even though you had to make mistakes in the past. You learned from them though and grew in God. :-)
    Happy vday!
    Xoxox TJ

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  14. Aww I love your story! And I love how it's perfect for you two. So sweet! Happy Valentine's Day to your and your honey :)

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  15. I was happy to read your story again! :-) Enjoy your day with Adam and the red pants!

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  16. what a great couple!!! Happy valentines!

    xo

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  17. ahh you two are simply adorable!!! happy valentines day!

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  18. so glad that God has brought you two back together again! Enjoy celebrating today!

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  19. what a great story! hope you two have a great valentines day!

    with love,
    meg

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  20. Aw, y'all are too cute! PS: Your hair is so cute!! Xo.

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  21. You too are SO sweet! I love all these pcs of y'all!!

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  22. Found your blog via the Linky follower Blog hop,...Am now following your cute blog. Hope you will stop by and say hi. Maybe follows as well:>

    http://blissfulanddomestic.blogspot.com

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  23. I love your story! I too was in an abusive relationship when my now husband came into the picture :) God brings them when we least expect them. Thanks for sharing! I love your blog :) have a wonderful weekend!

    Amanda

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  24. Oh my goodness, I absolutely loved reading this! So, so, so sweet. So great when a couple grows spiritually together like you both did. God was clearly guiding you both.

    High five for red pants!

    P.S. My man is all about playing drums too :)

    Cheers,
    Michelle

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  25. You and Adam have a beautiful story of redemption, Jess. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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  26. Beautiful story! And an inspiration to others to put Christ first in their relationships. Love love love.

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  27. okay....just read this!

    you two are adorable!

    and being unsure when you're young is SO so SO normal, jess! everything happens for a reason and it's so wonderful you were able to test your life to come and now what is really important. so much better to do this at a young age rather than when you're older.

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